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Holiday Season with the In-Lows
By Michelle Schaefer
The holidays can be a difficult time of year even for the closest of families. However, it can be especially stressful when you have to deal with your spouse’s family, too. It can be very difficult to juggle expectations and deal with your side of the family, let alone having to deal with your in-laws, as well. Here are some tips to help you handle the situation without getting too stressed out or upset.
The best way to deal with your in-laws is to simply be honest with them. Discuss your plans and your schedule with them in advance of the holiday so that they know what to expect. For example, if you plan on spending Christmas day at home, you will want to tell them about your plans well in advance of the Christmas holidays.
Of course, you should also make plans to see them during the holiday season, as well. This can really help to decrease conflict. This means that after you have communicated your plans for Christmas with your in-laws, you should tell them that you still really want to get together with them. Together, you can plan a day when the family can celebrate the holiday.
It sounds simple enough, but the reality is that sometimes, people can be difficult. What do you do if your mother in-law becomes angry when you tell her of you plans? You let her get angry and stick with your plans! Sometimes, you just can’t please everyone and you will need to accept that fact. Your in-laws will also need to accept the fact that you and your spouse need to make decisions for your family which may sometimes be unpopular with extended family members.
Chances are that if you are honest and firm in your decisions, that you will have no problem with your in-laws and you will all be able to enjoy a wonderful holiday season together.
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